I’m an ‘act first, think later’ kind of person. So my pace of change modus operandi for life changes has always been fast and furious. Whilst there are many times when this MO has served me well, there are also many when it hasn’t. At all.
Fast and furious is disruptive. That’s its essence. So when you need to disrupt your life, fast and furious is the way to go.
When should you use the fast and furious approach? I’ve found it useful in situations such as these:
- When I’m really stuck. If I can’t make a decision about something that I know needs to change, I just act radically at the first opportunity. For example, when I was trying to decide whether to move to a new place or not and found the rational pros and cons to be balanced, I let external forces make my decision for me. I applied for jobs in all locations and moved to the one with the job offer.
- When I’m uncomfortable, but don’t know why. Changing one thing rapidly shifts everything around a bit and helps me understand what was making me feel uncomfortable.
- When I feel a strong, often irrational pull towards something. If I’m not feeling overwhelmed, I follow these urges as they always provide me with something I need.
- When a member of my pack needs my help. Requests for help are often urgent, even if they’re not framed as such. I’ve learned that it’s best to act quickly when someone needs help.
At the other end of the pace scale is slow and steady. I’m FINALLY learning to become friends with slow and steady. Slow and steady would have saved me A LOT of money over the years. Money on movers. Money on con man landlords. Money on air fares.
When should you use the slow and steady approach? This is when I’m going to use it from now on:
- When I’m feeling overwhelmed. Every decision I’ve ever made when overwhelmed was a bad one. Bar none. Overwhelm clouds your instinct and thinking.
- When I know where I’m heading, but know it’s not yet time. Patience hasn’t always been my strong suit, but I now recognize when it’s needed. Whenever I feel like I’m forcing something, pushing too hard, I stop. And wait patiently for the right opening to appear. The right opening is one through which I can walk with ease.
- When I don’t know where I’m heading, but am not completely stuck. If I have some insight or information, but not enough to move forward with confidence, I sit tight.
- When I’m scared. Every decision I’ve ever made when scared was a bad one. Bar none. Fear clouds your instinct and thinking.
- When making purchases. Every impulse purchase I’ve ever made was a bad one. Bar none. For my health. For my bank balance.
You might be thinking that, in reality, very few actions are made from either extreme, but from somewhere in between. And you’re right. But the most important point to note is this:
Each of us has a personality that tends towards one end of the spectrum. If we want a life of ease, we need to learn to use the other end, too.
Believe me, if I, Ms. Fast and Furious, can dip into the unfamiliar waters of slow and steady, ANYONE can.
Let’s change it up!