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Do you walk your talk?

If you stop and ask random people in town what they think about climate change, chances are each one has an opinion on it. They all have a set of beliefs about climate change that they hold to be true.

If you then ask the same people to describe how they live day-to-day, chances are their descriptions don’t match their beliefs.

They talk the talk, but don’t walk the talk.

What do I mean by this? Well, say two women, A and B, have the same strong belief – that climate change is a serious global problem, which demands our attention. We might imagine that they have the same day-to-day lives. But do they? Woman A sort of recycles, uses her car all the time, loves shopping and buys new everything. Woman B practices the 5 Rs (reduce, reuse, repair, repurpose, recycle), walks everywhere she can, only buys what she absolutely needs, and shops secondhand whenever possible. With woman A, there’s a lot of talk, and very little walk. And woman B is walking her talk.

I make this point NOT to be judgemental.

I make this point, because it’s impossible for us to feel whole if we don’t walk our talk.

When we don’t feel whole, it can play out in a number of ways.

  • We can feel discomfort deep inside, a sense that something is wrong, even if we’re not sure what.
  • We can feel a lack of authenticity when we talk about our beliefs.
  • We can protect ourselves by labelling those who actually do walk their talk as inflexible or rigid.
  • Our lack of wholeness can also affect others. Those around us can get confused by our behaviour – they hear us saying one thing, and see us doing another.

We can get away with not being whole for a while. We can say to ourselves that we pretty much walk our talk, but make exceptions at times – because we’re spontaneous human beings, not robots. But exceptions are just a convenient way of hiding the truth.

And this is the truth. That, in order for us to feel whole, something has to give. Either we need to change our beliefs, or we need to change our actions.

It’s perfectly OK for us to change our beliefs. As often as we like. Yet we tend to feel so uncomfortable doing this, because we fear it makes us seem weak and indecisive. But here’s the thing. Given that we constantly receive new information about our beliefs, shouldn’t we constantly update what we believe to be true?

It’s also perfectly OK to change our actions. As often as we need, to make sure they honour our beliefs.

Ask yourself the question: “Do I fully walk my talk?”

And if you can’t honestly answer “YES!” to it, then it might be time to review your beliefs and how you live day-to-day.

Wholeness is our natural state. It’s how we were as kids before society started conditioning us. Wholeness leads to happiness – real, internal happiness. Which is what we’re all looking for.

 

Sarah Blick is a very tall, dog-loving, morning person. She loves to be in the great outdoors, to write, to eat well, to be active and healthy, to make her own household and personal care products, and to listen to indie music. She’s an ENFP (Myers-Briggs) and a Rockstar (Fascination Advantage).