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Take action to make fear your friend

We humans spend an awful lot of our time stuck in fear mode. So much so that we don’t really recognize it as fear any more.

To us, it’s security.

That’s right, fear is disguised as security. When we feel comforted by security, it’s actually that we fear the alternative. Think about job security for a moment. That’s just fear of not having a job.

We’ve channelled our fear into security.

“What’s wrong with that?” I hear you cry. “It stops us from being afraid.”

That’s true, it does stop us from being afraid. But it also makes us stuck. As in not moving forward. As in not growing and developing. Stuck.

Being stuck is a slow death. It’s¬†actually worse than feeling fear, because when you feel fear, at least you know you’re alive. When you’re stuck, you feel dead. You know something’s not quite right, but you don’t know what. On the surface, all is well – after all, you have your security. Inside, you know all isn’t well. At all.

Why do we get so stuck? Because turning fear into security has made us afraid of change. And without change, we’re stuck where we are.

But we don’t have to live in a perpetual state of fear, nor do we have to channel our fear into security. We can choose to channel our fear into something else – into something productive, something that gets us unstuck.

We can channel our fear into action.

This is what happens automatically in the wild. Fear triggers action – either fight or flight. Without it, you’re dead. In the wild, fear is our best friend. It’s what gives us the chance to continue living.

Fear can do the same for us in our everyday, domesticated lives. Channelled into action, fear can help us move forward, help us make the changes we need to make in our lives in order to grow. It can give us the chance to start living more fully, and with a greater sense of personal fulfilment. And when we live more fully and feel self-fulfilled, we’re happier.

So make fear your friend by channelling it into action. Use it to take steps forward in your life.

By turning your fear into action, you start making life changes and stop being stuck. And once you’ve done this a few times, you stop fearing change so much and start living with greater ease.

Make fear your friend. You’ll end up feeling more alive than ever.



Sarah Blick is a very tall, dog-loving, morning person. She loves to be in the great outdoors, to write, to eat well, to be active and healthy, to make her own household and personal care products, and to listen to indie music. She’s an ENFP (Myers-Briggs) and a Rockstar (Fascination Advantage).